Dare to Win
Jack Canfield and Mark Victor Hansen
Stage: getting to “by me,” relationships
This is another one of those good all-around books to read on personal development.
It covers a lot! From business to family to health… I like this well-rounded approach to life.
Some of the things this book seems to be a specialist on is visualization and affirmation. Now, I don’t know if Canfield and Hansen are the first to come up with these techniques, but in any case they are big advocates of them. They also give instructions on how to do them!
One thing that hit me between the eyes came in the introduction: that people fear WINNING. Not losing. Winning.
Maybe I had just never thought of my situation that way before. But it really opened my eyes as to why I was holding myself back in certain areas of my life.
For example, I had been having trouble asking girls out. Maybe it was fear of rejection. But maybe it was the fear of success. After all, I had never had a girlfriend before. Was the safety of being alone and miserable better (to my subconscious) than the unknown of actually having a girlfriend?
Yes, the mind works in mysterious ways.
To illustrate the points of the book, it contains lots of classic personal development examples along the way: business, health, relationships, social life… You know the drill.
Dare to Win also dedicates two chapters to the subjects of love and family, something I found quite interesting. It gives some great advice for anyone in a relationship or who has a family. Even if you don’t have one, everyone you come into contact with deserves love!
One thing about this book is that it’s not very original. Maybe back in its day it was. But now it feels just like most personal development books.
Favorite Quote: “Once we realize that excuses don’t count, we can begin to break through. Once we see that our subconscious fears – not external circumstances – are the real problem, we can take charge of ourselves and our lives. And once we take charge, we can be, do and have anything we want.”
The Verdict: This is a good, well-rounded book on personal development, especially for those beginning topics like visualization and affirmation. However, there are very few original personal development ideas.